Hey stuff like this is actually really like. Borderline manipulative and it’s one thing to just have thoughts like “oh everyone gets tired of me and leaves and I wish they didn’t” but if you say things like this to friends especially if you’re in really serious relationships where one of you is being supported by the other (even if it’s mutual) that can be really manipulative and make people feel obligated to be your friend and not leave you and make promises they don’t want to and can’t keep and can be really really unhealthy for both of you

Like I understand feeling sad when friendships end but emotionally manipulating people into relationships is REALLY not cool even if you don’t realize you’re doing it, and it’s not just this post, there’s this whole mentality of like, co-dependent relationships are the MOST MEANINGFUL relationships and you have to be close FOREVER or it’s not real or whatever and that’s really unhealthy and toxic like please don’t

Everyone has the right to end friendships and leave relationships whether it’s a conscious decision or happens naturally over time. Relationships end. Let it happen, get over it. Please don’t depend on people because they are also people like you who need to have the autonomy to get out of bad situations or on a less serious level just do whatever the fuck they want with their lives

Your friends might make you feel special and less alone but they don’t EXIST SOLELY FOR THAT PURPOSE and they don’t owe it to you to stick with you forever, especially if you try to make them feel like they do

personal but this is so true tho friendships are hard people change and leave but yes they shouldn't stay if its at their cost they shouldn't feel obliged to be my friend forever but it hurts none the less 
Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.
Maya Angelou  (via tiredestprincess)
quote personal right in the feels 
Developmental Psych Professor: Spanking as a punishment for children doesn't actually work and advised to not be used. Explaining the bad behavior and their punishment is suggested. Giving them a say in their punishment is helpful too.
Class: ...
Professor: ...
Me: *War flashbacks of "So do you want the belt or slipper?"*
1. If you like someone, wait.
2. Give lots of compliments, even if you’re shy. Everyone else is too.
3. Change. Get a haircut, try new perfume, get new sheets. Become better than you were before.
4. Eat healthier. Learn to cook something fancy.
5. Get up earlier and watch the sun come up.
6. Wear soft clothes, take a bath, drink something warm.
7. Meet someone new, even just a friend.
8. Become closer with your friends and your family. Call your mother. Cry with your best friend. Tell everyone how much you appreciate them.
9. Keep your room clean. Buy some candles. Let the natural light in.
10. Make a list of reasons why you’ll be better off without them. Believe they are true, because they are.
11. Listen to new music.
12. Write everything you’re thinking and feeling. Write letters. Write happy letters, sad letters, and angry letters, even if you’re never going to send them.
13. It’s okay to be sad, but not forever. Sadness is not as beautiful as music makes it seem. Lack of sleep makes your eyes droopy, not deep. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re going to have a good day.
14. Go to the library. Don’t forget to look in the music section.
15. Remove them from your life. Get rid of the things they gave you if they make you sad. They’re not worth it. You will never be happy if you continue to hold on to the things that make you sad.
16. Make new memories.
17. Try to find something to appreciate in everything you do or experience.
18. Being alone is okay, you don’t have to surround yourself with people.
19. Become your own best friend. Buy yourself coffee and drink it alone in a cafe. Take your time.
20. Learn to love every bit of yourself.

How to feel better and become better by me 

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Steve leaving Blues Clues is the reason I have trust issues.

In the midst of our failed attempts at loving Jesus, His grace covers us.
Francis Chan - Crazy Love

One time, this white girl in my film photography class said she hated rice and I remember accidentally spilling some water on her shoes then whispering, “cuz you don’t know the definition of seasoning”.

In highschool, I used to love writing essays. My articulation was at its prime and my word choices were great. Even now, looking back at my old, well thought out text posts leave me wondering….what happened?

When did reading and writing get so humdrum for me?

When did writing become such a hassle?

When did my grasp of words loosen?

I need to get back, I need to fall back in love with learning.


"I’m a caring person."
“What’s the hardest part about being a caring person?”
“People can take advantage of your kindness.”
“How so?”
“If people know you care, and that you won’t let something fail, they know that you’ll pick up their slack.”